There are so many parties, gatherings, and events to attend. Many of them feel like ‘obligations’ and we begin to worry what others might think if we don’t go or that feelings will be hurt. In truth, we can’t please everyone. Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to invites and give yourself permission to avoid stressful situations or people. Prioritize the events you want to attend and the people who make you feel cared for. For others, a manageable task could be a short phone call or a caring text.
Holiday songs want us to believe there is magic in the air, but this isn’t usually the case. Stop worrying about having a perfect family, buying the perfect gift, or throwing the perfect party. Instead, take time to breathe and seek joy. Actively rest by reflecting on the best parts of the past year and then seek out healthy activities that consistently bring you joy (ex. coffee with friends).
Stop yourself from saying, “but that’s just the way we have always done it.” Traditions can be great but as we go through life’s ups and downs some traditions can bring up painful memories, spread us too thin, or empty our bank accounts. This year try something different with your friends or family. Invite the new neighbors over for dinner or volunteer somewhere in your community. Instead of expensive gifts, give a little to one of the amazing Oregon charities featured on giveguide.org this year!